Fractals in nature, Richmond Park 2019 I love/hate this piece 'The four of you' from @justinadamwise. The idea that when you are in conversation with just one other person, there are actually another two characters there. Uninvited characters.... As we talk to another, especially when the stakes are high or our resilience is low, we …
Ruled by your phone?
I'm increasingly aware of the all pervading presence of my smart phone. Thankfully, when I'm with others I'm able to leave it alone, to ignore the siren call of Amazon, Twitter, Facebook, Wikipedia.... But when I'm alone, or working on a tricky programme design I'm alarmed at how often I interrupt myself by picking up …
What is your first step? Go on, give it a try…
If you've got something you'd love to do, it can seem like you have to get it all right, perfectly ready, 100% complete and confident before you can do it. In my experience this normally means that you are never ready to give it a try. This makes a lot of sense - this thing …
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The Right Way to Hold People Accountable
Many people I work with find it difficult at times to create accountability in their teams and this often either leads to conflict, micro-management or refusing to delegate work in the future. Accountability isn't talked about enough within teams or training. If you are struggling with establishing and maintaining accountability try reading this super HBR …
Have you got to know your inner critic?
Most of us are under attack - from part of ourselves. The old adage 'you are your own worst enemy' really is true. As we become more aware of the part of us that acts as judge and jury it really can be unpleasant - we wouldn't accept friends or family talking to us this …
What can I do when an argument gets heated?
So many of us avoid #conflict at work, or get drawn in and before we know it there is a row going on. Quickly, neither 'side' is listening to each other and any hope of finding a good solution is long gone. Worse, the cycle settles in - whatever tactic - avoidance or rowing becomes …
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Are you making up stories?
This article from @BreneBrown is really thought provoking! It highlighted for me how much of the time we can be 'making up stories' about what is going on. This rarely helps us - but it is hard to resist the hardwiring within most of us to tell a story rather than look at the facts. …
Will you be happier if you get out more?
This poem wonderfully summarises the need to get out and get some fresh air when things all seem too much from The Peace of Wild Things Wendell Berry #internationaldayofhappiness #coaching #stress
Why is the other person always the unreasonable one?
Provocative idea from @ThisisSethsBlog! Why in a row is it always the other person who is being unreasonable and provocative? Conflict does strange things to us and it can be hard to look at things through the others eyes. But it's often worthwhile...
An alternative to believing in yourself
Great point from @ThisisSethsBlog. I'm not a fan of 'believe in yourself' 'pull yourself together' 'think rationally'. When you are in a funk its hard to 'just' think differently. But doing different things, every day make a difference. Doing work that matters. Doing things that you enjoy Spending time with people who put a smile …
