Fractals in nature, Richmond Park 2019 I love/hate this piece 'The four of you' from @justinadamwise. The idea that when you are in conversation with just one other person, there are actually another two characters there. Uninvited characters.... As we talk to another, especially when the stakes are high or our resilience is low, we …
What is holding you back from changing?
Have you got back into work after the Christmas break and feeling you wanted a change? During the break did you you rediscover yourself under the layers of stress and exhaustion? Did you dream of the new job, change in responsibility, improved work relationships? But if only it was as easy as day dreaming - rather …
Stuck in a disagreement?
Are you feeling stuck in a #conflict or disagreement with a colleague or family member? Too often these can feel that they are consuming too much of your brain-time, too much of your emotional energy. They can be frustrating and easy to get really stuck into a place where you just don't want to budge …
Self-fulfilling prophecies?
This story from Seth's Blog: The dominant narrative reminded me how we can easily tell ourselves stories about who we are (and who we aren't) and what those around us are up to (and not up to). Too often our stories affect how we respond and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Me - I 'can't' catch a …
Small steps are good steps
# executivecoaching This quote applies to so many situations! I've rarely found that there is a single solution to reduce your stress, increase your happiness or satisfaction. Instead, there are many small steps that slowly and persistently take us toward a different future. Small steps give us a chance movement, change, shift and a satisfying opportunity to …
Calming Your Brain During Conflict
Great article to help us understand the what happens to our bodies and brains when we get into disagreements - no matter how slight. So much of what we feel is driven by our ancient responses to attack and are less than helpful nowadays. Great advice to help us slow down and regain control: Step …
When good conversations take a nasty turn…
I was with a client recently working on a conversation which had snowballed into a thorough disagreement. Like all tough conversations it had come out of the blue. Having looked at it from different perspectives she felt that there was a good chance that it could kick off again and wanted to talk about handling …
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First 90 days as a leader – leading vs doing
Over the last few months I've been lucky enough to work with individuals who are starting a new role - one internal promotion and one fresh to the organisation. I say lucky because it has been a super recap on what is helpful at the start of a new role. It's been interesting to see …
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Have you got to know your inner critic?
Most of us are under attack - from part of ourselves. The old adage 'you are your own worst enemy' really is true. As we become more aware of the part of us that acts as judge and jury it really can be unpleasant - we wouldn't accept friends or family talking to us this …
Want to Be an Outstanding Leader?
I ask many of my coaching clients to start keeping a journal. Fairly consistently I get a quizzical expression in return! So, this is a moment for me to pause and explain why. Many people turn to coaching to changing habits and build new ones. Perhaps these are new ways of responding to conflict, of thinking, …
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