Book review: A Path With Heart, Jack Kornfield

This is a beautifully accessible, uplifting, motivational book to help us access our inner potential.  There are some great exercises and quotes, some stand out ones for me:

Margaret Mead ‘Don’t think that a small group of awakened people cannot change the world.  Indeed it is the only thing that ever has’

Then it was as if I suddenly saw the secret beauty of their hearts, the depths where neither sin nor desire can reach, the person that each one is in God’s eyes.  If only they could see themselves as they really are.  If only we could see each other that way there would be no reason or war, for hatred, for cruelty”  Thomas Merton.

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There Are No Limits

Lovely thought – something often explored in coaching.

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Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

One of the most common obstacles regarding our intentions and its manifestation is the belief that the object or situation desired is out of our possibilities. That for whatever reason is just not possible to reach such outcome out of our current position.

And to some extent this is true. There is no way we could manifest a given intention or wanting if our current belief is aligned with hopelessness or with any other negative emotional state.

At first sight might seems like the chicken and the egg dilemma: I have to acknowledge the feasibility of a possibility in order for it to actually become possible, but I am unable to acknowledge the likelihood of the possible future events until I see physical evidence of it.

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Looking after yourself

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Leaders need to look after themselves as well as their teams to deliver in the long term.  I sneaked in an early morning walk. #coaching # Richmond

Is your mind is like a puppy?

Another one of the super quotes from Jack Kornfield:  A Path with Heart:  ‘the mind is like a puppy’.

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When you are training a puppy it runs away many times and you gently bring it back to the training – this is like the brain.  Many people still expect their mind to be calm like a lake after a few meditation sessions which then can dishearten them and makes it more likely that they will give up.  Remember this if you get frustrated in meditation.  Unfortunately, mine is also like a magpie – attracted by shiny things – not quite as cute!

Just because you think it doesn’t make it real

One of the main abilities of successful leaders is understanding themselves.   The only thing we can start to control is how we respond to situations and they know their habitual responses and are able to manage them.  But golly, that can be a big ask!

Meditation can help – even 10 minutes a day – and who doesn’t have 10 minutes?  Even better its free!  But there are so many myths around it that stop people trying – the biggest is the idea that it is about stopping your thoughts, turning your mind into a calm lake without ripples.

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Absolutely wrong!  Meditation can help you become aware of your thoughts – rather than being ‘had by them’.  You can begin to see (in the words of Radiohead) ‘just because you think it, doesn’t make it real’!

For more meditation ‘myths’ have a look at this article from the yoga journal.

Pouring it all away?

I like this post from Justin Wise – how would the world be if we had the conversations we really want to have rather than assuming we know what people are thinking.  Why are we so frightened of conversations, preferring to think we know what people are thinking?    How much better could things be if instead of rushing into reorganisations and change projects, we spent time really listening to each other and our customers?

Less than 100%?

After another fascinating session with restorative yoga teacher Tuesday from Urban Yogi, I have much to think about….  She talked to me about the amount of effort needed to sustain a pose.  Silly, but I’d always assumed you have to do EVERYTHING thoroughly!  By thoroughly I mean with the total amount of energy I had available to me.  The idea that I could choose how much energy to use for a pose was enlightening.

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So, in life I can choose how much energy to face a certain situation – what a super revelation.  I don’t have to do everything 100% – even if it is tough and challenging.  I can use less energy and still take action.

So, the next time you are in a difficult situation, dreading a difficult conversation – consider how much energy do I want to put into this and how much do I need to put in?

Passion, Potential, Possibility Urban Retreat

A 2-day Urban Retreat to clear your mind and free your spirit

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Saturday 24th and Sunday 25th January 2015  10.00 – 17.00  Richmond

A weekend of Yoga, reflection, insight and coaching, geared towards setting you up for the year ahead.    This is a wonderful opportunity to make 2015 a year to really step into your power and shin, giving you the space and guidance to start the year off on the best possible footing.

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