Are you feeling stuck in a #conflict or disagreement with a colleague or family member? Too often these can feel that they are consuming too much of your brain-time, too much of your emotional energy. They can be frustrating and easy to get really stuck into a place where you just don’t want to budge – you and your ‘disagreement partner’ just are not going to move. It can seem that there is no way forward and you are both becoming even more entrenched – even when you don’t want to.
This is often a topic in #coaching conversations I have with my clients and I like this suggestion from @ThisIsSethsBlog: see if you can have a four part conversation with your ‘disagreement partner’ to explore:
- Do we agree on the goals but differ on how to get there?
- Do we agree on the facts?
- Do we agree on measurement – how we will know when we get there?
- Now we know this – what might we do next to move our conversation forward?
I’ve love to hear your experiences.
